Brian Doyle -Fathering God’s Way: Heal, Lead, Disciple
In this episode of Dudes Without Dads, Joshua interviews Brian (Iron Sharpens Iron) about father wounds, discipleship, and becoming a godly father by first getting connected to the Perfect Father—God. You’ll learn why you can’t disciple your kids into a walk with Jesus if you’re not walking with Him yourself—and how affirmation, brotherhood, and intentional leadership change a home.
What You’ll Learn
- Why you can’t give away what you don’t have spiritually
- The difference between teaching what you know vs. reproducing who you are
- How father wounds affect identity, addiction, and discipleship
- The power of hearing: “You are my son… I love you… I’m pleased”
- Why church programs can’t replace a dad’s role in spiritual formation
- How to build brotherhood (iron sharpens iron) that actually changes men
- Practical “daily/weekly” rhythms for leading your home with intention🔗 LINKS / CTAs
- Website / Guest Application: dudeswithoutdadspodcast.com
- Learn more about Brian / Iron Sharpens Iron: ironsharpensiron.net
- Subscribe for weekly episodes (every Thursday)
- Share this with a friend who’s carrying father wounds
- #fatherhood #discipleship
Chapters / Timestamps
00:00 Intro: The point of being a dad (discipleship)
00:35 “You can’t give away what you don’t have”
01:10 Dads reproduce who they are (not just what they know)
02:05 Why dad is pivotal in God’s design
03:25 Common father wounds + the “Promise Keepers” moment
05:55 The Perfect Father: healing starts with God
07:10 Why everyone wins when men go from wounded to healthy
08:30 Churches miss men (and why it’s not working)
10:15 Healing + forgiveness: is it only “get right with God”?
11:10 God’s affirmation: “You are my son… I love you…”
13:05 Iron Sharpens Iron: how men are trained (not a content dump)
14:45 Brotherhood: the missing fuel for men’s growth
16:15 Practical call to action: invite men personally
18:00 Fathering rhythms: dates with kids + leading the home
20:10 Sabbath + controlling the rhythm of your household
22:10 “First things first”: wife, kids, walking with God
24:00 Recommended resources + where to find Iron Sharpens Iron
25:00 Closing: forgiveness brings peace