Why Most Men Don’t Pray (And What It’s Costing Us) | Ralph Moore

Most men don’t struggle with discipline.

They struggle with prayer.

In this episode of Dudes Without Dads, Joshua sits down with pastor and church planter Ralph Moore to talk about why prayer feels forced, awkward, or unnecessary for many men — and what it’s quietly costing us in our marriages, leadership, identity, and fatherhood.

If you grew up without a father, you probably learned how to survive.

But you may have never learned how to pray.

This conversation unpacks:

• Why prayer isn’t begging — it’s agreement
• The missing ingredient in most men’s spiritual lives
• How performance and control block intimacy with God
• Real stories of answered prayer and divine appointments
• Whether speaking in tongues is biblical — and what it actually means
• Why what you manufacture, you have to maintain

Ralph shares stories from decades of ministry, including moments of healing, calling, and surrender — and how prayer shaped his life from childhood.

This isn’t about religious performance.

It’s about relationship.

If you’re trying harder but still feel disconnected…
 Prayer may be the thing you’ve been missing.

Who This Episode Is For:

• Men who feel spiritually numb
• Fathers who want to lead but feel overwhelmed
• Men struggling with father wounds
• Christian men who don’t know how to pray
• Leaders trying to manufacture outcomes
• Anyone asking: “Why doesn’t God answer me?”

Questions This Episode Answers:

• Why don’t most men pray?
• What is prayer according to the Bible?
• Is prayer about saying the right words?
• What does it mean that prayer is agreement?
• How do I pray if I didn’t grow up in church?
• Is speaking in tongues biblical?
• Can prayer actually change things?

About Ralph Moore

Ralph Moore has spent decades planting churches around the world and mentoring leaders. His perspective on prayer comes not from theory — but from lived experience, answered prayers, and surrendered leadership.

Key Takeaway

If you have to force it… it’s probably not prayer.

Prayer is not control.

It’s surrender.

And for fatherless men trying to carry everything alone, that changes everything.

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